Living Into Your Vision
Alisha Adrian, Ph.D.
Trauma-Informed
Parenting Coach
At Living Into Your Vision, we long for a world
confident,
where parents feel capable, and
connected;
loved,
where children feel respected, and
understood;
peace,
and where families feel joy, and
happiness.
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We leverage our passions, talents, training, education, and life experience as parents to help make your longing for a better home come true.
We specialize in three specific areas of support:
What is a Parenting Coach?
A parenting coach is a companion on your journey of parenting, who listens with compassion and no judgment and who helps you achieve your parenting goals.
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The coach-client relationship is both similar to and different from a close friendship. It is similar in that both relationships involve vulnerability and commitment. However, a friend-friend relationship is symmetric and each has the opportunity to support and to be supported; whereas a coach-client relationship is centered on the client and their needs. The coach always has the responsibility to create a safe, brave, and complex space for the work to be done.
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Within a trusting relationship, parenting coaches help parents and caregivers learn how to consciously respond to their children rather than habitually reacting to the circumstances. The coach supports the caregivers through teaching, reflection, and collaborative problem solving.
Why do parents choose to work with a coach?
Being a parent is the most consequential relationship that a person can have. Yes, other people and society in general have an influence, but research shows that parents have the greatest influence and that the primary wiring in the brain happens between conception and 6-years-old. Children learn what it means to be human and their place in the world primarily from their care-givers.
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Children do not come with an instruction manual, although many parents long for one.
Under enough stress, everyone regresses to patterns of behavior, instinctively reacting to a situation rather than consciously responding to it. Patterns of behavior are established in childhood, so parents often react the same way their parents did --- passing down the behavior to the next generation.
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Realizing the heavy responsibility of raising a child, longing for an instruction manual, or recognizing that they do not want to pass down all of their parents' patterns, people often read a book (or two or dozens) about how to be a good parent, or watch some videos, or follow certain folks on social media; and those actions can be very helpful, but sometimes they can't address your unique situation.
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Parent coaches can help you figure out how to apply, adopt, and adapt new parenting practices into your family's life in a way that aligns with your vision, your values, and your relationships. Committing to working with a parent coach gives parents a structured, set-aside time to think about and reflect on this most consequential relationship so that they can be the best parent possible!
Alisha Adrian, Ph. D. - Certified Parent Coach
Engineers, teachers, and parents create the future. Engineers create our built environment and our communication systems, making new connections possible. Teachers educate the next generation, teaching them how to think through problems and create solutions. Parents, however, are the most important group of people creating the future of society. As an engineer and as a teacher, I was confident in how to have the best influence on built environments and on students. As a mom, I was terrified. I didn't know how to be a good mother; I only knew that there were critical ways that I did not want to echo my childhood.
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Now that my three children are in their 20s, living out their dreams, I know that I was a good mother. Of course I made many mistakes and there were rough patches - every relationship has them - but I also apologized and repaired the relationships. I have a strong relationship with each of my children, who choose to invite me into their lives. They also choose to be close friends with each other. That's how I know that I was a good mother - I lived into my vision of adult children who choose to invite me, their father, and each other into their lives.
In addition to my personal experience as a mom, I have studied many areas that are critical to parenting with confidence, including child development, neurobiology, communication, emotional intelligence, polyvagal theory, and intergenerational patterns. In addition, I studied traumatology under renowned expert Rev. Dr. Shannon Michael Pater. I believe that science, in particular neuroscience, can teach us how to make positive changes in our lives, increasing our joy and peace through understanding how our bodies, our relationships, and our communities work.
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As your parenting coach, I will work with you to determine your vision for your family and weave it into your reality. With my support, you will decide which behavior patterns to enhance and which patterns to change and together we will create more joy and peace in your family's lives.
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Learn more about me here.
Contact me and let's discuss how I can help you begin
Living Into Your Vision
